Note: The videos required be viewed for membership were updated in September 2023 and increased from 3 video to 4 videos. Attending an event with an orientation is not longer required. Anyone 21+ who has watched all the video may take the test at any play party event. If you watched the previously listed videos, you do NOT need to watch the new videos, you will still be able to take the test from the old 3 videos through the end of 2023.

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The Denver Sanctuary is a Private Social Social Club for folks who practice or are interested in the BDSM Lifestyle. BDSM stands for Bondage/Discipline/Dominance & Submission/Sadomasochism. If you don't know what that all means you probably should not be on this site. Go Google it and come back if you are still interested. We are NOT a swingers club. If you are looking to get your dick wet or want to show off your hot sexy wife and watch her get banged this is NOT the club for you.

At the Denver Sanctuary we offer play party events, which require membership to attend. We also offer a variety of meetings, discussion groups, classes, skill shares, social events that do NOT require membership to attend. These are great events to attend if you just want to check the Sanctuary out and see what it's like before attending a play party.


ARE YOU VISITING DENVER FROM OUT OF STATE?   If you are, and want to attend a play party event at the Denver Sanctuary please send a text message to Love Slave at 720-989-3283 (at least 48 hours in advance) stating what state you are visiting from and what play party you wish to attend. She will send you a link to a Guest Orientation video that you will need to watch prior to arriving at the club. When you arrive at the club the House Manager will ask a couple questions to verify you watched the video. You will be required sign a waiver at the door, pay whatever the door fee is for that event plus the $10 guest fee. Out of state visitors may attend any of the non-member events offered without being approved in advance. Just text Love Slave for the address.

NON-Member Events

We offer many social and educational events that are open to non-members of the Denver Sanctuary because we think education is a good thing, so is socializing with other like minded peeps. Attending any of these event also gives you a chance to check out the club and ask questions before deciding to become a member of the Denver Sanctuary. Anyone 19+ may attend classes, discussion groups or munches.

Current Monthly Non-Member Events:

1st Tuesdays : Hypnokink Denver

1st Wednesdays: Latex Craft Night

2nd Tuesday: Topside Talk

2nd Wednesday: Switch it Up

3rd Tuesdays: Sanctuary Social, Demo Scene w/ Q&A & play party

3rd Wednesday: sub discussion group

4th Tuesday: Baby Talk

4th Wednesday: Socially Awkward Kinkster Totally Non-Threatening Game Night

4th Sundays: Stuffie Show & Tell and Storytime with Momma Christine

Current Monthly CLASSES:

2nd Saturdays:

Denver Rope Bite offers a class from noon-3pm.

Fun with Floggers skillshare is 3:30-5pm

* We also offer other classes/workshops at the Denver Sanctuary as the schedule permits. We have also partnered with the Denver's Dangerous Theatre Annex: Classroom & Rehearsal Space to offer classes in their space. Classes for both spaces will usually be posted on the club calendar and on Fetlife.


You must have a membership to attend play parties. Play parties are events where the dungeon is open for BDSM play. Our space is set up with two social areas, a coat room and a main dungeon. In the dungeon we have 14 stations with a mix of tables, crosses, spanking benches, a hoist, a cage and drop lines that can be used for rope suspension.


Hey! you can also CLICK HERE to watch a video about getting a membership.

You must be 21+ to get a FULL membership to the Denver Sanctuary. You must be 21+ to get a Specialty membership to the Spanko Party or Femdomonium. If you are 19 or 20 you can get a Special 19-20yr old TNG Membership or a Baby Bash Membership. All memberships to the Denver Sanctuary are annual memberships, meaning they are good for one year from when it was issued. There are no refunds, full or partial, if you decide you no longer want to attend events at the Denver Sanctuary. There are also no refunds, full or partial, if your membership is revoked due to asshat behavior.

Links to Membership Videos:

BDSM 101 - 35 min

Rules - 40 min

History - 30 min

Etiquette - 30 min


* Watch the 4 membership videos.

* Attend ANY play party event and take the membership test.

* To pass the 20 question, multiple choice test, you cannot get more than 3 answers wrong.

* The fee for a 1st time full membership is $40.

* Membership is good for one year. To renew your membership costs only$20


* We offer special memberships for the Spanking Party (2nd Sundays), Femdomonium (2nd Thursdays) and Baby Bash (3rd Sundays)

* Watch the 4 membership videos.
* Attend the specialty party you want and take the membership test.
* To pass the 20 question, multiple choice test, you cannot get more than 3 answers wrong.
* The fee for a 1st time specialty membership is $20.
* Membership is good for one year. To renew your membership costs only$10 

For 19-20 year olds:

* We offer a limited membership for anyone 19 or 20 who wants a membership to the Sanctuary

* You first need to attend either the orientation at 1st Thursday TNG Party or 3rd Sunday Baby Bash and stay for the party.

* If you liked the event and want to get a membership then you need to:

** * Watch the 4 membership videos.
** * Attend another TNG or Baby Bash Party and take the membership test.
** * To pass the 20 question, multiple choice test, you cannot get more than 3 answers wrong.

** * The fee will be prorated depending on when you turn 21. Not more than $30
** * This TNG membership will renew when you turn 21.

** * Then you upgrade to a full membership for $20

Some play parties offer Guest Orientations that non-members may attend so they can check out a play party before investing time in watching all the videos.

These events offer a Guest Orientation

* 1st Thur TNG Play Party (door @ 6:45, orientation at 7pm)

* Femdomonium on 2nd Thurs (door @ 6:45, orientation at 7pm)
* Spanking Party on 2nd Sundays (door @ 6:45, orientation at 7pm)
* Baby Bash on 3rd Sundays (door @ 6:45, orientation at 7pm)
* 2nd Friday Gateway ( Door @ 8:30, Orientation @ 9:15pm)
* 4th Saturday Gateway ( Door @ 8:30, Orientation @ 9:15pm)



The Denver Sanctuary is open most Friday & Saturday nights. Friday nights are more specialty events and Saturdays are planned for the general membership. We have some parties that are scheduled on the same day each month. ALL play party events are 21+ unless stated otherwise in the event description. The door fee for all Friday & Saturday parties is $25/person unless otherwise stated in the event description. The door fee on all other nights is $20/person unless otherwise stated in the event description. A $10 guest fee applies to all non-members who attend. We only accept cash and venmo at the door.

Here is a list of our current monthly parties: (Some have links to video descriptions of that party)

1st Fridays: Play Date Littles Social. This is actually NOT a play party. The Dungeon is NOT open at this event. This event is specifically for littles and Daddies and Bigs to come together and socialize. The front room will be a reading room, the middle room will be set up for coloring and crafts. The dungeon will be put aside and instead there will be tables set up to play games like Candyland, or build with blocks or other toys. On the stage will be a big blanket fort for folks to hang out in. Since the dungeon is not out, membership is NOT required to attend this event.

2nd Fridays & 4th Saturdays : GATEWAY PLAY PARTY.   This is our original "Newbie Night" at the Denver Sanctuary. This is the twice a month party that non-members may attend as long as they attend the guest orientation at 9:15pm. The Guest Orientation is about 20 minutes long. After the orientation folx are welcome to stay for the play party and check out the activities in the dungeon or hang out in the social area. We usually have a toybag tour where a club member displays their toys for folks to look at and ask questions. This is the best way to check out a play party and will help you decide if you want to become a member.

 2nd Saturdays: CAKE & SPANK Every 2nd Saturday we celebrate birthdays at the club. At 9pm we have cupcakes and sing "Happy Birthday you Kinky Fuckers" to anyone who has a birthday that month. Then the B-Day Peeps can run through the gauntlet of slappy hands from the  Dollar Store if they desire. If your birthday is that month then no door fee for this party! (Guests with birthdays that month don't pay the door fee, but still need to pay the guest fee of $10.)

3rd Fridays: Primal Night (Odd Months) or Quiet Side of Kink (Even Months). Primal Night is a night focused on Primal Play. The dungeon is set up to allow for more space for wrestling and contact play. It has a limited entry time from 8:30-9:30. At 9:30 there is a introduction and explanation of the rules for the event. The Quiet Side of Kink also takes place every 4th Sunday. This is not about what kind of play is allowed. All kinds of play is allowed but we limit attendance to only 40 people and the music and lights are subdued.Tickets must be purchased in advance for this event and entry is only from 8:30 - 9:30 (6-7 on Sundays)

4th Fridays: Ropegasm (Even Months). This is a rope-centric party hosted by Denver Rope Bite, who offer the rope classes on 2nd Saturdays. The mood is very chill and there are lots of extra hard points up and mats down for floor work. There are a variety of different events on 4th Fridays of even months.

1st Thursdays: DenverTNG Play Party. TNG stands for The Next Generation. Not like Star Trek... these events are restricted for attendees ages 19-35 only. Attendees in that age range may escort their partners who are over 35 into the event. TNG Play Parties take place every 1st Thursday from 7:30pm til midnight. Sometimes the parties have a theme or offer a class/discussion at the beginning of the party.

2nd Thursdays: FEMDOMONIUM  This event celebrates Femdoms and those who serve them. At this event Any female identifying person wishing to be a royalty for the night can attend as a Queen. From 7:30 to 8:30 there is a Royalty social up front. Anyone attending solo and wants to be in service to a Queen spends that 1st hour in the dungeon preparing for the Parade of Possibilities. In the parade, Possibilities are introduced one at a time to the attending Royalty and state of they are available for play or service or as eye candy or any combination thereof. After the parade the dungeon is open for play.

3rd Tuesdays: Sanctuary Pot Luck Social, Demo Scene w/ Q&A and Play Party.:

Anyone 19+ welcome to attend. Membership NOT required.
Door opens at 7pm. You can arrive any time.
7-8:30 - Sanctuary Pot Luck Social. Bring something to share to nosh on if you can, not required. You can also bring beer or wine to drink as long as you are 21+. No hard alcohol. There will be hard cider from the Colorado Cider Company (across the parking lot) available for cash donation. Everyone will be encouraged to put name tags on. We will do a quick round of introductions at 7:30. We will also have some card/board games available to play if anyone wants to.
8:30-9:30ish - There will be a demo scene (30ish minutes) in the dungeon followed by a Q & A (30ish minutes) Folx are welcome to skip the demo and stay up front to socialize or play games.
9:30ish - 11:30 - After the demo scene and Q&A, the dungeon will be open for play for MEMBERS ONLY. Non-members still welcome to stay and hang out and watch what's going on in the dungeon, but may not play. Note: You cannot drink alcohol and play.

2nd Sundays: Rocky Mountain Spanking Party. This is our monthly spanko party. The only form of play allowed is play that involves the spanking of butts and thighs. You can only use toys like your hand, paddles, canes, hair brushes, spoons and the like. The only nudity allowed is the butt and back of thighs.

3rd Sundays: Baby Bash.  This is an age play and pet play party hosted by the Denver Littles Crawl (DLC). This event is for anyone 19+. For this event the middle room is turned into a play room with legos, blocks, a doll house, a ball pit and more. There is a diaper changing station available. Coloring and arts in crafts usually in the front room. The dungeon is also open for ALL FORMS OF PLAY.

4th Sundays: The Quiet Side of Kink: This event is not about what kind of play is allowed. All kinds of play is allowed but we limit attendance to only 40 people and the music and lights are subdued.Tickets must be purchased in advance for this event and entry is only from 6-7 and the event is over at 10pm. (This also takes place on 3rd Fridays of even months)

OTHER RECURRING EVENTS:  We have a variety of events that rotate through the year.

* Taste of Kink. 4X/year. Where Sanctuary members offer up tasting stations for folks to try  a variety of kinky forms of play from flogging to canes to paddles to electricity to rope and more.
* Top Taste. 4X/year. Similar to the Taste of Kink but this is where we have a handful of 4 - 5 members who are available to mentor other tops in various forms of play and learn a new skill.
* TRYST. 4X/year. This is an event to help folks make new friends and meet potential play partners. Anyone who wants to can join in on some ice breaker games from 9 to 10pm.
* PANdemonium 4X/year. This is an event that is a take off from Femdomonium (listed below). At this event there is a Topside social in the front rooms from 8:30 - 9:30 for all the Top/Dominant/Master types. During this time solo/bottom folx are sequestered to the dungeon area. At 8:30 we have a "Parade of Possibilities" where the bottom folx are introduced one at a time to the available Tops. Absolutely fun chaos that gets folks to meet new play partners and usually leads to lots of play.
* Kinky Carnival 2X/year. This is just a fun event we hold in January when it is cold a dreary and we need some fun after the holidays. We also hold it on 4th of July weekend. At this event we have a bunch of kinky (and not so kinky) games that people play to win candy and prizes. For example we usually have 2 kinds of Cock Ring Toss!
* Black & Blues Ball every May.  This is an event where we think back to our high school years and decorate the club like a prom, we crown a King & Queen and have a balloon arch for photos.
* McGyver Competition every November on the Saturday before Thanksgiving.  This is a fun event where Love Slave buys a bunch of really random items at the Dollar Store and then contestants have to use those items in a scene. Almost like a kinky Iron Chef! Those not competing watch the scenes and vote on their favorites.


As long as you have your expired card you can just present it at any play party and renew. The fee will be $20 in addition to whatever the stated door fee is. If you do NOT have your expired membership card, and Love Slave does not know you personally, you have to start over and follow the current membership procedure. If your membership expires and you renew, your new membership begins the day you renew. You do NOT have to pay for the lapsed months from when it expired to when you renew.


Yes. Any member with a membership card may bring in as many guests as they are willing to be responsible for. Guests may not enter before the member arrives and may not stay after the member leaves. Guests will be required to sign a waiver and pay a $10 guest fee in addition to whatever the stated door fee is. If members are bringing guests to Gateway on 4th Saturday, the guests are NOT required to attend the orientation at 9pm. They may arrive any time the members arrives and that can be after 9pm.


* Friday & Saturday Play Parties: $25 door fee

* All other Play Parties: $20 door fee
* Guest Fee for Play Parties: All non-members pay a $10 guest fee in addition to whatever the stated door fee is for that play party.

* Membership fees:

$40 for New Full Memberships, $20 for Renewal Full Memberships.

$20 for a Specialty Membership for  Femdomonium, Spanko Party or Baby Bash. $10 renewal.

Membership fees are paid in addition to whatever the stated door fee is for that event.

NOTE: We only accept cash or venmo at the door.


* Near downtown Denver close to the interchange of I25 and 6th Ave.

* If you need the address, send a text message to Love Slave at 720-989-3283 telling her what event you wish to attend and she will reply with location information.


General info in a nutshell:

* Membership is NOT required to attend non-play party events like meetings, discussion groups, classes, game night and the munch. Anyone 19+ welcome.

* MEMBERSHIP is required to attend play parties.

* SOME parties offer an orientation for non-members to attend. listed events above plus read the event descriptions.

* Friday & Saturday Play Parties are 21+.

* TNG Play Parties are limited to folx 19-35 in age

* Current Members may bring non-member guests (additional $10 guest fee)
* Snacks and water available for free. Folx are welcome to bring their own beverages to drink as long as it is in a screw top container. NO ALCOHOL allowed.

* Please click the blue calendar link at the top of the page for further details for all events.

*How do I contact Love Slave, owner of the Denver Sanctuary?
* Text her at 720-989-3283.

* Message her through her Fetlife profile.

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